The summer here in Seattle has been a scorcher. While sometimes the nights are unbearably hot, these high temps do lend themselves to those lazy, hazy daze of summer, offering up ample time to get outside and daydream.
Having recently gone back to school, I have some time off before I start my new job in the fall. This little space of breathing room has reinvigorated my two great passions - knitting and music. In the coming days, I hope to share some of my (re)discoveries with you.
Sunday, July 5, 2015
Thursday, January 3, 2013
Cultivate Promise: A Response to Violence
Gun control and stricter legislation are imperative, but
they are not enough. The more I mull over the world’s various and vast
problems, the more I am convinced that the roots of our issues run much deeper,
and much further back, than we so often convince ourselves.
Shootings are just one manifestation of the toxic cycle of
violence.
I often consider this strange reality:
When children are young, we say they are beautiful. They are
pure and innocent. If a first grader starts hitting kids at school, we are
quick to note that it is likely due to inadequate parenting – a lack of
discipline or strong role models. We pity the child. We have compassion for the
girl performing under grade-level and the boy with under-developed social
skills.
Suddenly, that child grows up and we have no problems
casting stones and calling him/her a monster. When that grown child commits a
crime, or wrongs another, our response is too often punitive, rather than restorative.
Where is the disconnect? How can we have compassion for the
child, yet cast such a critical eye on the floundering adult, ill-educated and
unequipped with the basic tools to function as a contributing member of
society? Did we expect that neglected child to be miraculously imbued with good
manners, a healthy approach to decision-making and a vocational skill-set?
Our response to gun violence should clearly be a focus on
prevention. Preventing the amount of dangerous weapons available to the public
is certainly a start, however we must turn our attention on preventing a
situation in which an individual responds to their own personal turmoil with
hostility and violence, especially lethal violence, towards others.
We need to work on cultivating a society of peace and
understanding. It is backwards to think that we can solve our problems by
arming more civilians and preaching an eye for an eye. We can’t keep teaching
our children that the best way to respond to guns is with more guns, to hate
with more hate, and to violence with more violence.
Working with homeless men has been a huge eye-opener for me.
Many of the men I meet are mentally ill, have been incarcerated, wear the label
of alcoholic, drug-abuser or child molester and are physically disabled. Many
of them can’t hold a job, and, if I’m being honest, I don’t know that I would
hire them myself, were I in a position to do so. It is clear that they often
don’t even possess the basic fundamentals necessary to being employed, let
alone being self-sufficient. I am so grieved by the lack of hope that surrounds
the homeless community and yet often, when I look through the lens of their
perspective, I understand the bleakness. This deep empathy for these wounded
people has compelled me to get to know them.
Through my conversations with these men, I often hear of
abusive childhoods and penetrating loneliness. So many of them have no family
to speak of. I hear stories of how they were imprisoned for some crime, and,
upon release, with no family to return to, they were abandoned with $30 on the
steps of a bed-bug ridden shelter, where men shoot-up in the bathroom and trade
Safeway giftcards for drugs.
How can we expect these men to prosper and build themselves
up from the bottom in such a toxic environment?
This is when I can’t ignore the hopelessness. This is when I
feel most deeply that the only solution is preventing these situations from
happening. Offering stable support systems from an early age. Providing
adequate resources to families dealing with mental illness. Working on breaking
stigmas and lifting up the ostracized and marginalized.
Our bodies need certain vitamins. In order to absorb said
vitamins, however, we need a diet that consists of the essential nutrients that
enable our bodies to benefit from the vitamins. Like this, our children need
stable and nurturing home environments before they can begin to absorb the
benefits of a good education.
While education is a huge facet of empowering young people
to grow into a positive adulthood, I truly believe that most often, the hugest
lapse for a struggling child lies within the breakdown of the family support
system.
As humans, we all inevitably make missteps and
misjudgments. The difference
between the outcomes of these situations and what we learn from them, however,
lies in what kind of community has, and is, supporting us. If we are instilled
with positive values and the knowledge that we are loved, we are much more
likely to succeed. This is what we need to offer our youth. Beyond that, it is
imperative that parents be adequately equipped to raise their children – to
know how to respond when a child exhibits signs of mental illness or a
developmental challenge.
If children aren’t sufficiently supported, a domino effect
is liable to occur. Without encouragement to invest in their education, we see
young people turning to other outlets. Too often, this alternative leads to
risky behavior that might result in drug-abuse or unprotected sex and teen
pregnancy (often perpetuating the cycle of children being born into households
that struggle to stay afloat). Without proper encouragement, the motivation to
aspire for more, and to make positive decisions based on promising aspirations,
inevitably dwindles.
Without hope for a positive future, in which we are
accepted, loved and encouraged to contribute our unique gifts, we are bound to
view the world as a very dark place.
Without a safety net of people who are looking out for us
and are prepared to identify and respond effectively to signs of depression or
bi-polar disorder, we are bound to let our inner turmoil manifest itself in negative
and hostile ways.
Every criminal, every abuser, every murder, was once a
child. What we need to focus on is lifting our children out of darkness.
Empowering them to be a positive force in the world. Equipping them with the
tools to make good decisions. Building for them a society in which we solve our
problems with peace, instead of guns. We need to show them that we are working
towards breaking the cycle of violence, so that they don’t need to be afraid to
go to school. We must let them know that they are each unspeakably valuable and
that their life is full of promise and that this world is a place worth caring
for.
- Chelsea Fiske
website: cmfiske.blogspot.com
- Chelsea Fiske
website: cmfiske.blogspot.com
Thursday, October 11, 2012
reverie 2a
1. Libra Ring : I have had my eye on this ring for some time.... it's only a matter of time before I breakdown and get it.
2. Philosykos Eau de Parfum : When I was in LA I stopped into Space NK and was delighted to discover this lovely scent. With it's hefty price tag this may be something that ends up on my Christmas Wishlist.
3. Chock A Block Necklace : Until recently I kept my distance from the all too present statement necklace. At first it seemed to trendy or goofy to stick but like many times before my initial judgment was way off. Okay, maybe not way off - I still think it's purdy darn trendy - but the goofy part, now that was wrong. I love the chunkiness of this piece, the deliberate shape choices, the simple colors.
4. Borja Tumbler : Zara has a new home collection. What I love about this line is its adherence to classic shapes, lines, and colors. I was drawn to the refined design of this glass; how its small size and clear glass allow for the embellishments to really shine.
5. Case for iPad : During my NY trip I was lucky enough to find my way over to Purl Soho, a yarn store I have long since been a fan of for their patterns, quality yarn selection, and presentation. They had these Baggu iPad cases I was extremely close to purchasing. Again, simple and practical with wonderful color selections.
I should mention that I am a fairly avid pinner so if you find yourself so inclined, feel free to follow me here.
Wednesday, September 26, 2012
mini midweek mix .v10.
1. Dreamboat Annie - Heart
2. Lost - Lee Ranaldo
3. Always Awkward - Onuinu
4. Lose Your Mind - So Many Wizards
5. Badlands - Wymond Miles
6. Follow - Seapony
7. Sweet Talk - Jessie Ware
8. Baby - Donnie & Joe Emerson
*click the image above to be redirected to the playlist on Spotify
Tuesday, September 25, 2012
'tis autumn
{Sunday stroll around Greenlake}
{Lavendar mocha and greeting cards}
{Ivars lunch on the waterfront with c.m. fiske}
Fall is here and I couldn't be happier.
Here is a song to usher you into this lovely season.
'Tis Autumn - Stan Getz
Labels:
autumn,
changing leaves,
coffee,
fall,
fish and chips,
greeting cards,
holidays,
ivars,
jazz,
music,
parks,
walks,
water,
waterfront,
working girls
Wednesday, August 15, 2012
mini midweek mix .v9.
1. Summertime - DJ Jazzy Jeff & The Fresh Prince
2. Denise - Clem Snide
3. What Are You Afraid Of - West Indian Girl
4. Human - The Human League
5. Among the Leaves - Sun Kil Moon
6. Live in Dreams - Wild Nothing
7. Big Dipper - Built To Spill
8. She Bangs The Drums - The Stone Roses
*click the image above to be redirected to the playlist on Spotify
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